Don’t let people tell you porn is influencing you in any way. Complete nonsense. Anal sex has been enjoyed for thousands of years by many woman and men. It’s also been hated by many women and men. I see strength in the woman who are completely sexually devoted to their man and I know many woman who are. You just gotta find the right one… you only get one life. I will only live it with someone completely devoted to me in every way. Why any man would stick with a woman who denies him in any way, is just foreign to me.
I finally put my foot down and told her. I married you with an expectation our bodies are as dedicated to each other and that understanding would never change. You’ve changed and it’s showing me you no longer want to be that girl I need. Either you decide if you want to change your mind back to being the girl I married or, I can get a side chick to take care of the dirty laundry you no longer want to do. If you want to be the only girl in my bed, you’re going to be up for the task. All of your holes are going to be enjoyed any way I want from this point forward. If you don’t like it, I’ll get a side chick who does. If you don’t like that, divorce me and find someone more sexually suited for you.
Try this, if your wife hasn’t responded to conversation. While having vag sex with your wife make sure to give her an orgasm first. Then, pull out and rub the tip of your dick up and down her butt crack and around her butt hole. If she hasn’t stopped you yet, start to insert slowly. If she stops you, tell her to leave the room so you can use porn to satisfy your urge. If she refuses to leave, proceed to masturbate watching anal porn in front of her. That’s exactly what I did. My wife does not like anything or anyone else getting me off but her.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
My wife is coming around. She still gets upset sometimes when I switch from vag to anal but, she will always submit and take it like the champ I married. If she gives any grief about it, I pull her hair back and go harder. All I hear from her now is “yes daddy”. I miss the days when she would orgasm during anal penetration but, she’s putting in the effort a least 3 times a week. She bought butt plugs and started training herself. I’m so proud of her.
Sounds like you ended up in a sexually incompatible relationship with a partner who is not submissive. My wife started refusing anal sex 2 years into our marriage. I will tell you what I did only after giving her space and a lot of time she needed to sort out the issues she was having with sex. While we were dating and up to this point, sex was whatever each other wanted, whenever each other wanted, zero boundaries, complete dedication to each other.
